Empathy for Trauma

 I've always heard the word trauma. But I don't really understand what it means. Until finally the journey of my life gave its own trauma for my life. I never underestimate the issue of trauma. Because I feel that small things can actually be resolved with a little discussion, or understanding. Makes me judge people too ridiculous and exaggerate easily call himself traumatized.

   Actually I don't underestimate people who have trauma. It's just that because there are so many trivial things that little by little diagnosing himself experiencing trauma, it makes me feel like I underestimated it. I know how hard it is for people who are traumatized. And this time I feel it. The problems with my parents and my previous relationship made me afraid to get married. At first I thought "oh this is normal, it will be gone soon. I just need to adjust and get used to it". But over time, the fear of men, the fear of being betrayed, the fear of being unappreciated made me really overthinking. And finally made me choose a safe path to live my own life first, before finally I found a man who was really able to make me believe that he was the right person.

  I didn't even realize that my fear was a trauma that I experienced in the process of my life. It wasn't easy. And I never told anyone that I was traumatized in a relationship. Because I don't think everyone understands how we feel, and we can't make everyone care about us.

  I don't even know how long this trauma will go away. Amazingly, I also never had the slightest feeling of returning after the failure of my relationship in the past. But I always try so that all my fears will end soon. And since then I started to really want to help the people around me who are experiencing trauma. I just want to share my sympathy and empathy with them. Because I know it feels bad when we need the care and sensitivity of others, but what we get are words that we don't expect at all.

  I am also concerned about the lack of empathy of people these days. Who never thinks about other people's feelings, doesn't care about other people's adversity. I really really regret that.