Have you ever felt like being alone without being disturbed? Either because I'm tired or just want to do some things alone. Tired of the world moving so fast. Tired of undergoing monotonous activities without pause. Have to leave early in the morning, come home late at night. And when you get home you still have to do campus assignments or maybe continue unfinished office work. And when the holidays come, the time you should use to rest is actually used with various things. For example, invite your friends to take a walk, social gathering, hang out in cafes, family events or attend other events. Of course this is quite disturbing your rest time.
A life that is busy with activities without a break tends to trigger stress. A head that is almost full is like a half-filled glass. When water is poured into it, the contents will immediately spill out. When we are stressed, we tend to be more reactive and emotional when we get the slightest stimulus from the outside. For that we need to do the solitary name. The activity of spending time alone is often called solitude. Maybe many of you already know the meaning of solitude. Or have you never heard of the term?
Solitude is usually defined as solitude. But what needs to be underlined is that solitude has a different meaning from loneliness, namely loneliness. Because there are some people who interpret loneliness as loneliness. Even though they both have different meanings. Loneliness is a state of being alone without feeling lonely. Efforts to empty yourself from all routines. Take a moment to set yourself aside because you are tired of the various activities and work that have been done. While (loneliness) is a condition that leads to negative vibes which is characterized by the feeling of someone who usually feels isolated, feels shunned by those around him, feels inferior or lonely because he feels no concern around him. Usually people who feel lonely or lonely still feel lonely even in the crowd though. Meanwhile, solitude is more positive, wanting to rest the mind and stay away from crowds with the aim of stabilizing mental health.
Without realizing it, many of us have done this solitude, not because of loneliness but because our heads and bodies are tired of the many activities and pressures of life that we live. Solitude has many benefits. Among them are giving the brain time to rest, clearing the mind, reducing stress, as well as revitalizing the body. Increase concentration and productivity because the mind becomes clearer. Knowing ourselves better and subconsciously we also get other benefits when doing solitude or better known as me time, namely we will become more independent people. Because, of course, when it's me time, we do things alone and don't depend on other people. And what most people may often feel after me time is, they feel they have creative ideas that are growing.
In addition, taking time alone for me time will make us feel comfortable being the person we are, without being required to do this and that, and of course life will feel more comfortable. Compared to being someone that other people expect or demands around us, even though we ourselves are not comfortable with that attitude. Surely you often meet people who sometimes compare their lives with other people, it must be like this, and indirectly sometimes we will also be affected by these conversations. So from there arises a feeling of not respecting yourself, there is always a feeling of wanting to compete, not wanting to lose to others. Even though, my friends, competing is actually not wrong, it's just that sometimes there are people who really want to be recognized by the environment, sometimes they become selfish people and do various things to look perfect and good when people see them, even though in themselves they are not comfortable doing all of that. , not sincere from the heart. The fall is like a made-up. So, with solitude we can find happiness within ourselves, and can appreciate ourselves more.
I have a little story, which I myself used to do the same thing. Back when I was still in elementary, middle, and high school, I often saw and often thought that people who always went everywhere alone, doing things themselves were people who couldn't get along, people who didn't have friend. And thoughts like that arise because I'm the type of person who is easy to get along with and has many friends. Until finally when I entered the world of lectures and the world of work, I just realized that actually going anywhere alone, doing various things on my own, it's not because I don't have friends, not because I'm not good at getting along. But because it will also be useful for ourselves. It turns out that interacting too often is also not very good. Because we also realize that we cannot control the attitudes of others who interact with us. Yes, if they give a positive and good impact, if it gives a bad impact? And it turns out that me time is very necessary for us, especially those who are busy with various kinds of work every day. It's like giving a pause for our minds to rest and be ourselves without having to listen to this from other people.
As Paulo Coelho said “Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life.” ,
Basically, we really need something called solitude/me time. Because we are just ordinary people who cannot experience continuous pressure. There is a time for us to rest, eliminate the thoughts that are too full in the head. And without realizing it, this solitude can make our relationships with other people better. Why? Because continuous social interaction can sometimes make us feel bored quickly with the people around us. As a result, we become quick-witted and more easily provoked, questioning various kinds of conflicts that are actually trivial with the people around us. Well, when me time automatically we spend time with ourselves and avoid social interaction with people. This makes us calmer and better at dealing with conflicts and interactions with those around us.
Then, how, when and where do we do solitude?
I'm one of those people who spend a lot of time on me, my friends. Not because I'm an introvert, I'm an ambivert. So in a crowded place or atmosphere is comfortable, being alone is also comfortable. Yes, you can adapt the term. But usually I take my time because I feel tired, feel like being alone, feel that my mind is no longer clear and I need time to refresh so I can be productive again. Usually because of the work factor. Because all day long, leave early in the morning and return at night. The next day do the same thing, so tend to be bored. I usually have me time on weekends. Completely off social media, avoiding interactions both offline and online. So I usually turn off social media data. Keep jogging in the housing complex, because the atmosphere is good when it's fresh in the morning. Then after jogging, I will definitely cook, take a shower, then watch movies. The point of my version of solitude is to avoid interacting with people, and find a really calm environment.
I think everyone's solitude is different. There are those who take their me time by traveling, there are those who take their time to travel to the places they like, some even take their time as simple as turning off social media, reading books or doing things that make them happy.
Some studies say that the ideal place to be alone usually depends on a person's personality. Choosing a place that fits our personality to spend time alone can be the right supporter. Of course, this fact is based on individual differences, which means that everyone has their own “tastes” or ways that are considered ideal for being alone. Some prefer places that smell natural, some like places that smell vintage and so on.
So, from now on, love our bodies and minds. Set aside time to rest, so that we can live a balanced life.
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